Is Your Boyfriend Having an Emotional Affair?

Is your boyfriend having an emotional affair, or are you just worried that he is? In some ways emotional affairs may even be worse than the physical kind, though no one wants to have to deal with the aftermath of either. No one wants to think that their boyfriend can actually be in love with someone else, at least if it was just physical you could console yourself with the idea that "didn't mean anything" but you have no such solace with an emotional affair.

It's often said that a man rarely leaves his wife for the other woman, but when love is involved the odds of him leaving to be with the woman he loves are a lot higher. That is part of the reason an emotional affair can be so damaging to a relationship and it is not something to be taken lightly.

It can be quite easy for anyone to get caught up in an attraction especially if they are spending a lot of time with someone, say a co-worker.  When two people who have a lot in common are thrown together day in and day out (not to mention over night business trips and the occasional weekend retreat) it's no wonder that an emotional romance can happen.

Once that attraction and affection grows, it's often not long until the relationship turns physical and they act on the feelings they are having for each other. It's not uncommon for the people involved in the relationship to be in a state of denial, they don't even know that they are having feelings for someone other than their partner or that what they are doing really is cheating.

Here are some signs that your boyfriend is becoming too involved with a co-worker:

1. If your boyfriend suddenly starts taking more time with his appearance before heading off to work. Or, he starts working out. Of course, you don't want to jump to any conclusions he might just have finally gotten fed up with his spare tire, but it is certainly something to keep an eye on.

2. If he seems to be working a lot of extra time, going to more after work meetings and gatherings. This is really something to worry about if he used to take you to afterhours office functions but now he tells you that you would "just be bored" and he'll go alone.

3. If he suddenly starts acting differently; things like leaving the room to take a call, or closing the door when he is on his computer. These are definite signs that he is doing something he doesn't want you to know about. Further discussion between the two of you is in order.

4. This is probably the biggest sign that whatever is going on is emotional and not physical and that he may not even realize it: he talks about a certain person, female, from work a lot. If your boyfriend suddenly starts a lot of sentences with "So and So said this" or "So and so did that" you might have a problem brewing.

Is your boyfriend having an emotional affair? If you're not sure, there are some things to look for.  Hopefully nothing is wrong but if it is, there is nothing to be gained by ignoring it.

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Marriage After Cheating - How to Rebuild Your Marriage

Have you ever wondered if there is any chance of a marriage after cheating? Well the answer to that question will depend on the two people in the marriage.  If both of you are not able to, and willing to, forgive and forget than it is unlikely to work out.

Trust is extremely difficult to rebuild. Whenever you enter into a marriage with someone, you start with a blank slate. The other person still needs to learn to trust you but if you don't already have any negative baggage it's usually easier.

But, after they let their guard down, let you into their life and trusted you, it is going to be extremely hard to open themselves up to pain after you have shown them that their trust was misplaced.

Even though it will be difficult, that does not mean you should give up. Actually, the last thing you should do is to give up. You need to do everything you can if you want your spouse to love and trust you again.

With time, love and patience anything can be rebuilt, but again, it will be imperative that you are both willing to work on it.

Sometimes the best thing to do in this situation is to give your ex some time and space. While you do that you should be spending time figuring out why you did something so self destructive as to cheat on someone you love.

Please don't make the mistake of thinking that infidelity is about sex, it's not. It's about ego, loneliness or insecurity. You need to address what your issues are that you thought would be cured by hooking up with someone else.

Before you can go back to your ex and expect them to take you back, you have to make sure that you know why you cheated before so you don't do it again.

This knowledge will likely take you quite a bit of time to figure out. It will most likely also be painful for you to look at your less than desirable characteristics. But, that is the best chance you have of convincing your ex that they should take you back and that they can trust you.

To complete this step and to figure out what your issues are that you "thought" would get solved by cheating; you might need the help of a therapist. It is not easy to identify your own baggage most of the time. You will most likely need help and having a therapist gently point out things that you need to change about yourself. It may not be fun but it will help you become a better person, if you let it.

When love is present pretty much anything is possible, even having a marriage after cheating. Whether or not you are successful at keeping your marriage and earning your spouse’s trust again, will take a lot of work and total commitment and honesty. If you don't think you can commit totally its best if you just let things go.

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Advice on Getting Your Husband Back – Don’t Play Games!

There is a lot of advice on getting your husband back that you can find, some of it is good but most of it is lame. Does it really sound like a good idea to beg him to take you back? Of course not... you mustn’t ever give up your dignity and anyone that wants you to, doesn’t care about you. Here’s a little advice on getting your husband back.

Other people will advise you to play games and try to make him jealous and though that may work, do you really want a marriage based on jealousy? Before you say you don't care remember that this type of marriage will not last.  As soon as your husband knows he has you back or as soon as the old problems start to surface again your marriage will be over.

Without resorting to games, trickery or even love spells how about just apologizing for what you did wrong? Sounds simple doesn't it? Now, I'm not suggesting that the whole breakup was your fault, but more than likely you did one or two things wrong. It can't hurt to apologize for that.

Another benefit of acknowledging your mistakes is that it will give you a chance to make changes. That way if you and your husband do get back together you won't just repeat the same mistakes all over again and continue to cause each other pain.

That one piece of advice on getting your husband back is good even if the two of you fail to reunite. At least you will know what things not to do in your next relationship. Either way, you win if you take the time to figure out your mistakes and make changes.

When you do contact him to apologize, keep it short and sweet. Tell him you realize you made some mistakes and that you are truly sorry for any pain you may have caused him.

Do not make it a production: no crying or begging and do not expect him to immediately take you back, right on the spot. He will most likely not. But he may think about it for a while and decide that based on the 'new' more mature you that he would like to give things a second try.

If he doesn't immediately take you back, give him space. Don't contact him for a while. Let him have time to think things over and decide for himself what he wants to do. If you pester him you will most likely just make the situation worse. Give him a chance to miss you!

During this period, don't sit by the phone and wait for his call. Live your life. Do something to make you feel really good about yourself, and making yourself look really hot can't hurt either. Spend time with friends. Do not just sit around and worry, that will make time seem to go much more slowly. Surround yourself with positive people and avoid the negative ones. Spend time with people that genuinely care about you, friends and relatives that give unconditional love not the bloke at the office that has always had a crush on you.

If you follow this advice on getting your husband back you will stand a much better chance of being successful than if you choose to follow the advice that suggests you play games and try to make him jealous. It's up to you, good luck.

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Dealing with Jealousy in Relationships

We all know that jealousy is a negative force that is never a good thing. It can ruin your relationship especially when unfounded claims of infidelity are made towards your lover. Dealing with jealousy in relationships is difficult but you must deal with it if you are to have a successful and fulfilling relationship.

Jealousy in relationships is always born of insecurity and this can be caused by you being let down all the time when you were young. This is the hardest to correct. Because it is ingrained and you lack the ability to trust anyone so you assume at some point this great relationship you have will turn sour and your partner will let you down. It’s very hard for you to conquer this when all the evidence through your life has made you think that nobody can be trusted. You lack faith in the human race and who can blame you if you have been miss-treated so badly for so long?

The other type of insecurity causing jealousy in a relationship is the behaviour of your partner. Sometimes people struggle to give themselves totally to their lover and hold a certain amount back emotionally. This comes across as being either secretive or indifferent or both, making for what we call a semi-committed relationship. When one partner is semi-committed and the other totally committed it generally makes for a bumpy ride. Relationships are hard to sustain sometimes and you both need to be totally committed for it to work on a level that will make both of you happy. The fact that your lover is semi-committed doesn’t mean they will be unfaithful but it does unease us as partners if we aren’t getting back what we give.

The answer as with most things in relationships is communication and the way we interact with one another. Tact is the key within the communication. You cannot accuse anyone of anything unless you have concrete evidence as this is always very damaging when you get it wrong. The percentage of divorces in the USA caused by infidelity is 41% which means 59% of divorces had nothing to do with infidelity or being disloyal, just people that are not compatible, too young or probably a lack of communication somewhere down the line.

So infidelity isn’t as wide spread as you may think... so why let jealousy in a relationship ruin your relationship? You must learn to trust and give your lover the benefit of the doubt until they do something outrageously obvious and disloyal. History shows us that when people have an affair the person they have an affair with will generally want more of that person and invariably ends up confronting  their lover’s wife or husband trying to initiate a split or divorce . Now that’s what you call real evidence, if your partner is having an affair you will find out eventually.

In dealing with jealousy the art is not to look for betrayal as this will just drive you crazy worrying about something that may or may not happen. Don’t convict your partner of a crime they haven’t even thought of committing. You have heard the expression “give a man enough rope” this is the best strategy for a healthy relationship. Enjoy your relationship and communicate your feelings without accusing and make it damn difficult for your partner to want anyone else. Always make them feel special, more special than anyone else can. We love people for the way they make us feel and if someone starts to make us feel like we have to justify our every move and remark, we will eventually want away.

Unless you have overwhelming evidence that your partner is being unfaithful, trust, love and cherish them as best you can. Don’t spend your life worrying about things you cannot change or control, life is too short. Enjoy the ride and if it crashes, be strong, brush yourself off and get right back on again.

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Overcoming Jealousy and Dealing with Jealousy in a Relationship

Overcoming jealousy and dealing with jealousy in a relationship is a lot easier when you understand why it’s happening. In this article I will attempt to explain why it’s happening and how to deal with it.

First of all… you should know that jealousy is a normal emotion. Even Freud states that a person would be abnormal if they didn’t experience jealousy at some stage in their life. Freud compares it to bereavement in as much as it would be abnormal for someone to not grieve when someone they care about dies. Jealousy is the same in as much as it would be a bit strange if you didn’t care whether the person you loved shared intimacy with you or someone else.

Now I know what you are going to say… people in open relationships share each other momentarily with other sexual partners. This is done with consent and of course is not the norm. Swingers as we call them in the UK make up only a fraction of the population and they see the sex they have with others as just that… sex. Not intimacy or love. When we are jealous it’s because we are afraid of losing the love of a person, because we want to be the centre of their world and when it appears that we are not, we feel insecure and this leads to jealousy.

The levels of jealousy will ultimately depend on how insecure you are and this is, according to Freud governed by your childhood. If you were constantly let down as a child… subconsciously you will assume that it is going to happen all the time as an adult. If on the other hand you had a stable and loving childhood where nothing nasty happened and your parents always did as they promised… your subconscious will assume most people can be trusted.

Overcoming jealousy is about overcoming your own insecurities and controlling the demons your childhood created in your subconscious. The easy way to deal with the green eyed monster is to not care at all. Some people can do this and it shows in their relationships. They prefer not to give too much of themselves in case they get hurt. This causes a lot of relationships to collapse over time. Men are particularly good at this and can get away with it because of the macho stance that is almost expected by society.

It is a lot harder for women to take this stance as women are more caring by nature. This is evolution and dates back to early mankind as the woman had to care and protect the young sometimes from the men. Women are of course more affectionate, even to one another than men are. Women have no problem cuddling their mates but men have to be at a sports event or drunk to do the same… although this is changing in the 21^st century.

Take a step back when feeling jealous and analyse whether you are being reasonable. Your partner just talking to someone who is attractive is not a reason to be jealous. So many people who are insecure react on very little evidence. Unless you have concrete evidence of an affair… put all jealous thoughts out of your mind. Don’t check emails, don’t check texts or your partners smart phone, this will not help you. You could miss understand a text or email and cause a massive problem in your relationship when there was a perfectly logical explanation.

As you go through life you will have to deal with many trials and tribulations. The average person has three major relationships in their lives and we never quite know what life has in store for us. Don’t try and control it… because you can’t… so enjoy the time you have together and don’t be melodramatic or let your insecurities spoil your life. Concentrate on making the one you love happier than anyone else could ever do and you will have a long and happy relationship.

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