Getting Over a Break up

Relationships end for many reasons and it can be the most difficult thing to deal with. But there are things you can do to make it easier. If you need advice on getting over a break up read on…

When a relationship ends even if it is a mutual arrangement there is a grieving period. That period of uncertainty that no one is really comfortable with. Most of us like order and routine because it makes us feel safe and secure. Disruption to our routine and order is what upsets us the most when, especially a long relationship ends. This coupled with missing the companionship is what makes it especially difficult to deal with.

You will find that some of the oldest advice is still prevalent today such as, keep busy, get out and do things you enjoy, spend time with people who love you like family and old friends etc. Of course each situation is different and you may find it difficult to do some of these things. Getting over a break up is never easy and if you can do these things it will be much easier to cope with.

Time heals and by keeping busy the time will pass more quickly and the more distractions you have the better. When following this advice you just have to make sure you endeavour to pursue positive and constructive pursuits and not negative. By keeping busy we don’t mean going out and getting out of order. This will only lead to more regret and possibly a worse situation than you are already in.

What we mean is, concentrate on your career and hobbies. Work hard and focus on getting a promotion or retraining to change profession if you are bored with what you do or want a better life. Focus on positive pursuits and reward yourself for achievement by pursuing your hobbies or interests that perhaps lapsed when you become embroiled in your relationship. You must look forward and not dwell on the past as you can’t change the past but you can change the future.

I don’t know your circumstances but if your relationship is definitely over, you must move on and pursue a life of fulfilment elsewhere. We are only here once and we have to make the best of the time we have as any elderly relative will tell you, your life passes very quickly. Don’t dwell, take control and work towards a better life now, whether it is emotional or financial, you snooze… you lose!

Now if your relationship isn’t completely over and there are reasons for the split that can be rectified you need help. The best way of getting over a break up is to set about repairing the relationship if it’s possible. There are many guides to doing this and believe me, you will need guidance. You will not be able to do this on your own. Get an expert to help, whether it is a marriage councillor or quality relationship manual or guru… get some therapy!

Whichever route you take it will not be easy, life isn’t easy but if we soldier on and pursue our goals the rewards are amazing. Little victories turn into big ones so I wish you luck and wish you well.

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