Ending a Relationship Gracefully

One of the hardest things you will ever have to deal with is the breakup of your relationship; it can be even harder if it's you that has to do the breaking up.  Most people think it's more difficult to be the one who is dumped, but in reality finding the best way of ending a relationship gracefully, is very difficult.   

If you've reached the point in your relationship where it's just not working anymore, and you're getting fed up with dealing with the daily stresses, there are some things you can do that will make it a little easier on everyone involved when you break up with your partner.

The first thing you need to do is stop blaming yourself or each other. More than likely there is enough blame to go around, but it's important to find a way to let go of your anger, disappointment and frustration, so that you can move on.  It's common for people to want to blame their ex since this can make it easier for them to leave, but in the long run this strategy can backfire.  If you spend too much time playing the blame game it can be virtually impossible for you to move on and get over your anger and hurt... and that will only hold you back longer. 

If you let go of the need to 'be right' and 'get your fair share in the settlement' you'll be able to move on more quickly.  Couples can easily lose sight of what's really important... to end the relationship with as little additional pain as possible. Instead they fight over who is going to get the silverware from aunt Sally.

If you want to make things easier on both of you, make sure you don't let your emotions get the better of you.  This highly emotional time will make it very easy for you to want to lash out and let your ex have it by calling them every name in the book, but if you do, all you'll end up with is guilt. It will just make you feel bad, and look bad. Better to take the high road than to dive into the gutter. Take the high road and you'll be able to look at yourself in the mirror in the morning and move on more quickly which is what you're really going to want to do.

It's easy to get caught up in feelings of failure, but again, it's not what you want to hang on to.  Instead realize that people change and that you are both somewhat responsible for the breakup of the relationship and be willing to move on.  The more balanced you can stay at this point, the less baggage you will have to carry into your next relationship... and the rest of your life.

Ending a relationship gracefully is possible, and though there are times when you feel like getting as mean and nasty as possible, in the long run it will only make it easier for you to move on and have a great life, and great relationships.

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Guaranteed Tips to Get Back Together

It can really stink to realize, after the breakup, that you still love your ex and you wish you had never ended the relationship.  This can be so painful for not only your ex, but for you as well.  It's never easy to admit when you've made a mistake and you might wonder if your ex can ever forgive you and if there is any hope for the two of you to be together again.  The goods news, is that yes, in many cases it is possible to reconcile no matter how hopeless it may seem.  Here are some guaranteed tips to get back together that have worked for thousands of couples for many years and will work for you too, if you follow them.

One thing you need to do before you start following these steps is to make sure your motives are pure. It's very easy to fall into the trap of mistaking loneliness or jealousy for a desire to be back with your ex. These things can sneak up on you and you may not even be aware that that is what is going on.  Take time to make sure that the reason you want to reconcile with your ex has nothing to do with the fact that you don't have a date for Saturday night or that your best friend just told you that your ex has a new person in their life.

OK, now that you've spent some time analyzing your feelings and you're sure that the only reason you want your ex back is because you think the two of you can have a great relationship and you still love them, follow these steps:

1. Give them space. Do not contact your ex in any way.  It's important that you both have breathing room so that you can each miss the other. If you are constantly contacting your ex, you aren't giving them reason to fear that they may have really lost you.  It's that fear that will make them more receptive to giving things another try.

2. Take stock of the person you are and what you need to change.  This is tough because no one likes to face their own bad traits, but it's imperative if you want to have a good relationship in the future, even if it's with someone new.  There is no point going from one relationship to another (or back to a previous relationship) dragging the same bad habits with you. If you do that, you will just leave a trail of destruction that will cause you and your ex a lot of pain. Figure out what you need to change about you, and then make those changes.

3. While you're spending time trying to improve the person you are, spend time with the people you love doing the things you love to do.  This is not the time to sit around feeling sorry for yourself; it's the time to live your life to the fullest, no matter how hard that may seem at this point.  This will remind your ex of the person they fell in love with in the start.

These guaranteed tips to get back together have worked for many people and if you're willing to use them, they can work for you too.

I Want My Wife to Love Me Again - Avoid These Mistakes

There are some marriages that manage to go through small problems with ease. There are others who seem to have an incredibly tough time getting through their marital problems. Occasionally, those who go through these issues may feel as if their partner does not love them any more.

There are some who give up on their relationship when they feel as if their partner does not love them anymore. They ask for a divorce because they feel as if their relationship cannot be salvaged. This is incredibly unfortunate, as there are many marriages that could be saved by a simple change of action and change of heart. If you say that "I want my wife to love me again" there are a few things that you need to make sure that you avoid. Avoiding these actions will help you to win back your wife’s love.

Nagging

If you want to win your wife back you need to make sure that you stop nagging her about small issues. You have bigger fish to fry in your relationship; you need to let some of the smaller things go as you try to work on the larger things. You may realize that the small things that upset you are not enough of a problem for you to even talk about.

Failing to Listen

One of the worst things that you can do when trying to win your wife back is to not listen to what she has to say. Talk to her about what you hear her saying to make sure that you understand what she is talking about. If you do not listen, she will feel that you are not taking the issue seriously.

Arguing

Try to avoid arguing with your wife as you try to get her to love you again. Arguments simply cause animosity; the more trouble there is in the relationship, the less likely she is to fall in love with you again.

Discuss Divorce

If you are planning on working with your wife to win back her heart, avoid the topic of divorce. If you talk about the possibility of a divorce, your wife will see that you do not care about relationship and will stop thinking about you. While it may be ok to give her space, avoid divorce talk at all costs.

Some of these topics may seem trivial, while others may seem incredibly obvious. Unfortunately, some will attempt to win back the heart of their wife while missing the obvious, and ignoring the trivial. You need to make sure that you are approaching this situation correctly if you want your wife to love you again.

If you can truly say, "I want my wife to love me again", you will have no problem following this list. If you are willing to do anything for your relationship, and are willing to change your actions and behaviours, you have a shot at saving your marriage.