How Do I Get My Husband to Love Me Again?

I really don't think that there are many things worse in life than screwing up and ruining a good marriage. It's hard enough when things fall apart and it wasn't your fault (mostly). But when you've done it to yourself that is the worst. The regret, the pain, the shame all combines to make you feel pretty lousy. If you find yourself in this situation and you're saying "how do I get my husband to love me again" then I may just be able to help.

First things first, what went wrong? What did you do or say that pushed him away and, more importantly, why did you do or say those things? It's not uncommon for people to sabotage a good marriage. I know that sounds dumb but many people simply don't know how to react when something good happens to them. They will allow all the negative thoughts inside of them (as well as the negatives in the outside world) to mess with their head.

They will become convinced that this marriage is just too good to be true, too good to last. They will sub consciously sabotage it and ruin it. They don't understand they are doing it, but the end result is the same: they've screwed up a great marriage and now they get to be “right".

You see, if in their minds they are convinced that a marriage can't last, especially a good marriage, and they sub consciously ruin it, then they were right. They can say "See, I knew this marriage wouldn't last" They might be right but they are also lonely and in pain.

What I have just outlined is very, very common. The worst part is you don't even understand that's what you're doing. So if you want to get your lover to be in love with you again, and you understand now just what you've done, you can still fix it.

How do I get my husband to love me again; the first thing you really should do is to find a good (and no, not all of them are good) therapist. You need to work out why you don't believe that good things can happen, or why you believe that good things can't, or shouldn't, happen to you.

Then you should talk openly and honestly with him. Let him know that you now understand that you were the one, even though it was on a sub conscious level that pushed him away. Don't be afraid to be completely honest with him. Tell him that you're sorry and more importantly that you've gotten help and now you are a bigger person who can enjoy the benefits of a great marriage.

It might take a while for him to learn to trust you again. If this is what you want, you have to be willing to give him time. Anyone who has been hurt is going to have a really hard time trusting that person again and risk being hurt all over again. But with time, patience, and a lot of love you can find a way to win him back.

There are many reasons why marriages fall apart. Sometimes the marriage just isn't any good and it's for the best, but other times we can all be guilty of throwing away the best thing that ever happened to us. If that happens and you are still wondering ‘how do I get my husband to love me again’ remember that virtually anything can be overcome with a great strategy and determination.

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