4 Easy Steps to Getting Over a Break Up

Author: Dave Islington

When dealing with getting over a break up we often dwell on things we can't change. There is no point going over and over in your mind things you cannot change. You need to focus on what you can change. There are several things you can do to deal with getting over a break up but in this article we will deal with the four best and least painful ways.

Let it All Go

Deal with your emotions, don't bottle anything up. If you feel angry, let it loose at the gym or in the garden on some project that would benefit from your aggression. Do not let it loose on people. If you are upset, have a good cry, it's all part of the healing process. If you are frustrated, write your thoughts down, you will be amazed how better you feel after. Keep a journal or let rip on a forum or blog. But the main thing is to let your emotions out; they are all part of the grieving process.

Get Out and About

You need to force yourself to go out and socialise. It won't be easy for some people but it is necessary. Spend time with people that love you, good friends and family, anyone that cares about you and will help you deal with this part of the process. Go out to restaurants, wine bars, clubs anything to get you out the house and with people that care about you.

Explore Your Freedom

Meeting new people is something you will have to do eventually so why not give it a go now. You never know what might happen and think positive; you may meet some really great people. I'm not talking about dating but pressure free conversations with new people. New people will be more interesting than the people you already know and will act as a great distraction from the getting over a break up feelings you are experiencing.

Allow Yourself Time

Everyone is different and so are the circumstances that create rifts between people. Give yourself adequate time to deal properly with getting over a break up. It's not easy and there are no easy answers sometimes but trying to do this quickly may cause more damage than good. You need to build your future on sound emotional foundations so that you can deal with anything that life throws at you in the future.

When I was growing up in London, England the old Cockneys used to say ‘what doesn't kill you, makes you strong' and getting over a break up is exactly what they mean. You fold or you get on with life and grow in character and become a better person because of it. We learn in life from every event that befalls us. We tend to learn more from the painful ones so use this negative event to be a positive and stronger person. Misery or happiness can be around any corner so we have no choice but to keep walking.

I hope this has helped and as we say in London... ‘be lucky'!