Is It Too Late To Get Back Together With Your Ex?

There is no time limit to reconciliation as we know from history and factual literature; there is no time limit to love. People have got back together after years apart and had great and long relationships. Each situation is different but the best way to get back together with your ex is to work on it right away.

The last thing you want is for your ex to meet someone else or get used to being independent. These are both things that can happen and you will have to deal with that should it happen. So you need to work on reconciliation straightaway but you do need to give it time at the beginning as everything is too raw and emotions run high.

You need to be cool and let the dust settle or you will never make it back together, I know this sounds like a contradiction but there is no other way. They can't miss you if you are always there and they need to miss you a little for you to get back together. Plus all the emotional noise needs to quieten down before you can both think rationally and sort out what went wrong.

This will give you both time to reflect and decide whether you are made for each other or if you just went along the relationship train track as many people do. You met, you went out, you moved in together and then what? This is what happens to most relationships and it's because you aren't aiming towards something. We are as humans programmed to head towards something. To be building something or creating something depending on your personality. What happens if two parts of the train pull in different directions? It crashes!

So how do you get back together with your ex and get back on the relationship train and stay on it. Only if you are both pulling in the same direction will this or any partnership ever work. So you need to show your ex that getting back together is the best thing for you both and that you are both heading in the same direction. That you support them and that you are always there for them, no matter what.

Your time apart will give you time to work out… what is the next stop if you both get back on the train? Relationships go through stages and you have to follow these stages and grow together through them. Would the next step for you be children? If so are you both going to want them? How many and how soon? There is much to think about with relationships and the relationship train never stops for long. If you both have a future goal that involves you both and both support that goal… you will make it together.

So you need to work out what your ex wants the future to hold for them and whoever they spend their life with. Because… if you don't fit that profile, then you will not be the one on the train, someone else will. If being just a good friend for a while helps you find this out then so be it. As an old friend you might find out more about your ex's needs and wants than as someone trying to get back in their life.

Once you find out where they are heading and what they want from a long term relationship you can get back together with your ex and get back on the train and enjoy a long and exciting journey together. It's so worth the effort. Good luck!