Is
it possible to rekindle a marriage? That of course depends on what issues or
problems are or has caused the marriage to collapse. Almost all relationships
can be saved with the right approach and strategy as long as the reasons for
its deterioration is not violent or abusive behaviour.
Life,
career and children sometimes cause us to lose perspective and direction. Think
about when your marriage was at its best, what was going on in your life and
why was it good? We sometimes lose the camaraderie that pulled us together in
the first place and consequently feel alone. You know the expression ‘can’t see
the wood for trees’ well sometimes those who are most important to us get lost
in the trees and we forget they are there and that they need our love and support.
If
you are asking how to rekindle a marriage I guess you have lost your way and at
the very least are questioning the validity of your marriage going forward. Our
relationships are at their best when we are looking forward, before your first
house together, first child, beginning a new job in a new area. These things
are all exciting and it’s easy to feel very much in love when exiting things
are on the horizon and that’s why you must have goals together with or without children.
Looking
forward to every day together and taking on challenges together is all part of
being a couple and consequently marriage, so when you no longer do that your
relationship changes. For some people the change is fine and they go on
together still very much in love but with a different and deeper loving
relationship involving kids where the couple’s future goals now hinge on the
children.
In
gay relationships for instance there are in most cases no children so the
couple have to have goals together that involve just themselves. Similarly when
any couples children grow up and leave them they find themselves alone together
as they were in the beginning but now very different people, older, wiser, more
financially secure where most personal goals have been achieved although with
some war wounds. So what do you look forward to? And ‘cake’ although always
good in its own right is not a valid answer.
My
point is that sometimes it’s not the marriage that needs rekindling but our
lives, it’s hard to be enthusiastic about anything when you envisage a dull
future. It is human nature to look forward and to want more or we wouldn’t have
come this far and this is in all of us in different degrees. Whether it is the
house you always wanted by the sea or the dream kitchen you never got the
chance to do… you must have something to work towards and achieve together to
get that excitement and enthusiasm for life back in your marriage.
Any
couple you meet whether they are middle aged, young or old are happy together
when planning something new in the future. As many years as a kitchen designer
I met thousands of couples that were on top of the world because they had
projects on the go and exciting things happening in their lives. You need to
spice up your life and work towards some meaningful goals together to rekindle
your marriage. Exciting people lead exciting lives, rekindle your life and you
will rekindle your marriage!
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