How To Get Your Ex Wife Back Without Driving Her Further Away

I have got some advice for you if you are serious about learning what to do to get your ex wife back. The first thing you need to understand is that she no longer trusts what you say or do. She may still love you even though since she broke up with you she has been trying hard not to and no one understands how she could still love you when you treated her so badly.

Your first step should be figuring out the reason, or reasons, why you treated her so badly in the first place. Now, I'm no therapist but I do know that everything that happens... happens for some reason and everything has its own special set of consequences... cause and effect. If you really want a second chance with your ex wife, you need to figure out why you act and say the things you do. Then, when you have things figured out you need to find ways to change your behaviour and that will probably take some time.

Usually, when someone behaves badly, it is their insecurities coming to the forefront because they do not know how to handle a situation correctly. No one ever wants to admit when they are insecure, usually not even to themselves, but more often than not that is the reason. I've often said that money is not the root of all evil, insecurity is.

If you are over-compensating because you feel inadequate and you think that by acting like a 'big man' and letting your girl know 'who is the boss'; you are somehow "more of a man" you need to think again. This is one of the surest signs that you are actually not 'the big man' and that you are in fact a scared little boy who desperately wants the love of your woman but are too afraid to let her know that or ask for it.

She probably already does know that, on some level at least. Everyone can see when someone is trying to over-compensate. It's very common; you see it all the time. The fella with the really loud motorcycle, or another fella will treat his girl like garbage, still another fella will try to prove he is a man by sleeping with every woman out there but none of these things is the way to get your ex wife back.

If you really are a secure man, you won't need to work so hard to try and prove it. If you concentrate all your efforts on being a decent, caring, honest human being those around you will have more respect and trust for you and if you really want to be the 'big man' that is a much better way to go about it than all the other BS.

Even after you've faced up to your own BS don't expect your ex wife to trust you right away. No matter how hard you may try to convince her that you've changed, actions speak louder than words and if you're really serious about getting her back you will have to show her that you have changed. That will take time.  If you're not willing to invest that time it is best that you just let her go to find someone else who can treat her the way she deserves to be treated and forget about trying to get your ex wife back.

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Marriage Breakup Advice

If your marriage is about to breakup advice is out there to show you how to get it done right. There are many things you should and shouldn't do. Let's start with some shouldn't do's.

You shouldn't ever breakup with someone over the phone or by text or email. This is just about the tackiest thing you could do, breakup with them in person, in private. Don't humiliate them by breaking up in public. You will have more respect for yourself and they will have more respect for you.

Obviously, if your spouse has a tendency to become violent this advice will not apply to your situation. Stay safe and handle the breakup over the phone or in a very public place.

Being honest is vital, but if the reason you need breakup help is that you have met someone else, keep that information to yourself. If they ask, don't tell them.

I know this sounds contradictory but you will hurt them more if you tell them. There is no point in causing them more pain than they feel already. Go ahead and start your new relationship, but do yourself a favour and try to go to different restaurants and clubs, at least for a while.  Make your new memories together in new places, special to just the two of you.

Plan out what you want to say beforehand because no matter how you feel you will be nervous when breaking up with them. Stand your ground. You have made this decision for a reason so stick to it. You will sound less convincing if you try to let them down easy. They will be just as hurt either way so state your reasons calmly and confidently. The respect thing comes in to play here again.

After the breakup, don't call your ex for any reason and don't take their calls. This will only give them false hope and keep the hurt fresh in both your minds. Don't kid yourself; you will feel a sense of loss after the breakup, too. Change the habits the two of you had.  Go to a different coffee house to get your morning coffee and find a new spot to eat your meals. You do not want to run into your ex accidentally. 

If you haven't already met someone new, it's probably best to hold off on dating for a while. Rebound relationships almost never work and you do not need any more drama or grief. You may have had more time to process the breakup, but you should still give yourself additional time to adjust to your new single life. Even if you're the one who ended the marriage, you can be susceptible to getting into a rebound relationship too, so give yourself some time.

Most people do not realize that things can be tough no matter which end of the breakup you are on. Unless your ex was a real jerk, you'll want to find a way to end the marriage as gently and firmly as possible. Following these tips will give you all the marriage breakup advice you need.

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Healing a Broken Heart – Keeping it Real!

Having your heart broken is a very painful and difficult experience.  Both men and women can experience the pain of a broken heart when a relationship ends.  It doesn't matter if you are the one who initiated the break up or not, you will still feel some pain and sadness at the end of something that had been wonderful.  Some breakups are expected after a relationship has been having troubles for a while, and other breakups can come unexpectedly and these can be the most heart breaking ones.

The worst thing that you can do after a relationship breakup is to sit around feeling sorry for yourself and telling all your friends and family your 'victim story' of how you have had your heart broken.  If you continue to long for that lost love that can no longer be, you are headed for trouble.

If you don’t allow yourself to grieve for the relationship and then accept that it is over then you won't be able to move on with your life.  If you don't get over your ex then any future relationships are doomed before they even start.

You can't run away from your heartache either, if you run it will just follow you.  You need to face life head on and a break up is a life experience like any other that must be dealt with.

You can't stop a broken heart by running away from it or suppressing it with alcohol or other substances.  Your grieving heart cannot heal unless you work your way through it.  You need to accept that you will feel sadness and pain during this time and that is a natural response to a busted relationship.  Use the pain and sadness that you feel to learn and grow from the experience.

There are no quick fix solutions to a broken heart but getting your feelings and thoughts out in the open can help. You can do this by talking to a friend, a counsellor or even writing your feelings and thoughts in a diary.  Talking about your feelings is part of the process of getting over a break up.

You can use this relationship experience to learn from and avoid making the same mistakes in a future relationship.  Of course this will depend on what mistakes, if any, that you made and what the reason was for the relationship ending.  Sometimes relationships just run their course and people fall out love.

If you did make any mistakes in the relationship then don’t act as though you didn't and don’t act like you are the victim.  Take responsibility for any mistakes that you did make and move on and learn from them.  There is a good chance that you both made some mistakes along the way and there is no point playing the blame game.

If you don't handle your break up responsibly, then you may continue to hold the pain in your heart and never completely get over it.  If you don't get over your relationship or your ex then you can never have a completely happy and fulfilled relationship with someone else.

If you handle your breakup responsibly with the goal of working through your feelings and letting them go, then you can heal your broken heart and move on with your life.

Healing a broken heart takes time and takes work.  It is difficult to lose someone who has been such a major part of your life, but you will get over it and you will become a stronger person because of it.

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