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Saturday, 19 February 2011

My Wife Left Me - Will She Love Me Again

Will she love me again? This is a question that pops up over and over again in the minds of men who are in a loveless relationship or who have just lost the woman they love. Whatever the circumstances, this can leave you feeling lost, depressed or desperate. But it doesn't have to be that way. There are many who've been able to answer "yes" the question of "will she love me again?" and you may be able to do it as well.

Your first step involves systematically accessing your state of affairs. Understand the point you are at in the relationship or the end of the relationship. Has your wife told you that she doesn't love you any longer, or do you just feel that way? Has your wife even gone so far as to say that she never wants to see you again? There is a big disparity between her not loving you and her hating you (if that is the case). You need to understand the actual situation before you can proceed in remedying it.

But, in most cases, before you can go on, you'll need to allow her the space she desires. Even if she hasn't told you that she doesn't love you anymore, her behaviour has lead you to question her love. Rather than pestering her or continually bringing it up let her have the time to work it out.

Obviously, if she has told you to leave her alone, then you know you should be giving her space anyway. At the moment, you should clear her from your mind. Stop putting all the focus on how to get her back. Dwelling or obsessing on it is not going to do anything.

Now you need to keep yourself busy with other things, mainly yourself. In this extra time that you now have, start doing some things that you enjoy but never had time to do before (or maybe she didn't like or agree with these things). Also, make sure that you are taking good care of yourself. This will serve when your "distance time" is up and you are ready to approach her once more.

You want to transform yourself into a smart, self-assured, devoted, strong person. This means eating the right kinds of foods (and shedding those extra pounds), not drinking too much or giving into some kind of behaviour that shows her you've fallen apart without her, getting enough sleep and having some fun. This time off serves both you and her.

It gives her the time she needs to think and to really see if she misses you when you aren't there and it gives you the chance to demonstrate to yourself that you can do just fine without her. It might feel like the world is about to end in the beginning, but you'll soon find that you no longer feel that way. This will put you in a good position when and if you decide to go back and try once again with her. And then you too can answer "yes" to the question of "Will she love me again?"

Friday, 18 February 2011

I Want My Husband to Love Me Again

"I want my husband to love me again" is one of the most commonly echoed sentiments when it comes to relationship mending. It's becoming more and more common that women are feeling lonely and lost in what they feel are loveless marriages. But they do not want to give up even if it appears that their husband already has. The good news is that there are numerous ways to fix your marriage, or any long-term relationship, and bring back that love you once shared.

Mending a marriage can be complex and there are many strategies that you can take to go about this. The results will depend on your individual circumstances and state of affairs, but there are some questions you need to ask yourself. First of all, you clearly feel that your husband doesn't love you any longer or you wouldn't be stating "I want my husband to love me again." But has he told you this? Remember that men and women think and feel differently. There could be a big difference between the way he really feels and what you think he feels. If he has not left you and he hasn't admitted to not having feelings for you any longer, then he probably does still love you, but there are some other things getting in the way that are baffling him.

One very common reason that husbands seem to stop displaying love to their wives is because the wife shifts her attention from him to the children. This is normal of course and you should put your children as top priority. But if you've been paying very little to no attention to your husband, he may start to feel unappreciated and he could even feel a little bitterness toward the children. While you would hope that is not the case, it is not unusual, especially if the situation has become a permanent mother-tending-to-her-kids-all-the-time one. In early childhood, this is more understandable, but as children grow up, some of your interest should shift back over to your husband.

If your husband treats you with no appreciation or value, first take a look at how you are treating him. Whether he started this behaviour or you did, you need to be the one to change it. Start complimenting him for the things he does do and avoid badgering him for the things he doesn't. If all goes well, he will start to mirror your actions so just give it time. In the meantime, instead of focusing on him all the time (for better or for worse), try focusing on yourself. Make sure you are taking care of yourself and not just the kids and your husband. The better you feel about yourself, the more attractive you will be to others, including your husband.

Your wish of "I want my husband to love me again" can be approved if you just take this guidance into consideration.

Thursday, 17 February 2011

Will My Husband Ever Love Me Again

Will my husband ever love me again? Many lonely wives and ex-wives ask themselves this question at some point in or after their marriage. Whether you're just growing apart, in the process of breaking up, or have already done so, there are ways that you can restore your lost love.

Perhaps even more common of a question is "will my husband ever love me again in the way that he used to?" Before we talk about the things that have helped other women get their husband's love back and may help you get yours too, let's discuss the things that you may be doing that will NOT win back his feelings for you. Remember to keep this truth in mind: men are more attracted to women that make them feel confident, funny, and interesting than they are to women that make them feel mad, fearful, or jealous. The kind of attention you are trying to elicit from your husband is on the positive side of the spectrum. Negative attention will most likely, only end up in him pushing you further away.

Sort of along those same lines, you want to create a positive image of yourself as well. You don't want to appear needy, clingy, desperate, high-maintenance, or bossy. While this type of behaviour will definitely get some sort of reaction from your husband, it might not be the reaction that is going to bring you closer together in the long-run.

What you want to do is create the right environment so that he can fall back in love with you, if in fact he really has fallen out of love, or just to remind him of how much he loves you if that's what's needed. In order to do this, you may need to revisit why he fell in love with you in the first place. Part of this will surely be your physical appearance.

If you've let that go over the years due to a variety of reasons, start working on it again. Make sure you are eating the right foods, exercising a little bit when possible (this is also extremely good for reducing stress), and getting enough sleep. Is one reason that he fell in love with you your sense of humour? Can you still laugh at things or have you lost a little bit of this quality throughout the years? Or maybe you've changed quite a bit and your husband doesn't recognize this person. In this case, you need to also evaluate the positive sides to your change and focus on those. Hopefully your shift has not only been towards more negative characteristics.

There's no reason that you cannot take a look at your situation from an objective point of view and analyze what is going on. The change in your husband (and in yourself) has happened over time. It didn't just happen overnight. You already know what your husband loves (or loved) about you. Make sure that you are showing him that on a regular basis if it is still a part of you. This is the first step in the answer to your question of "Will my husband ever love me again?"