How You and Your Ex Get Back Together

You were so blissful together, but then something occurred and now you're apart. If you really want to get back together with your ex, then you're going to have to do some soul searching. It isn't easy to be entirely truthful with yourself, but that's what you have to do.

You need to make your mind up if getting back together will really make you happy, and you also have to come to a decision if you'll be able to do things right if you do. After all, you don't want to break up again. It's normal for us to only remember the good times after breaking up, but you have to look at the bad times to, you need to be objective and practical.

Apart from the myth that Hollywood likes to put up on the silver screen, most relationships that split apart are not worth saving. That may be hard to hear, but we're dealing with reality. If your ex and you spent most of your time arguing and being unhappy, as opposed to being happy together, then you will probably be better off finding someone that's a better match for you.

Apart from arguing, violent relationships are usually better left in the past. If you or your ex were physically, psychologically or vocally abusive then it's probably time to move on (there are always exceptions, of course). But if your relationship with your ex was a good one, and they weren't abusive, and they were of sound mind, the following should help you get back together with your ex.

Nobody likes a pest, so don't be aggressive; you may just push them away for good. If you're always trying to communicate with your ex; whether by email, telephone or tracking down there location so you can talk in person, you are overdoing it. Not only will it look desperate, but it will be annoying, and you want to create positive connections, not negative ones.

Don't plead or make empty promises. It's easy to think about how doing so will win your ex back. You picture yourself making the perfect appeal, pouring your heart out, but...you will never be able to accurately forecast how your ex will react, good or bad. You can't change what went before. You can make an apology, ask for forgiveness and be earnest, but this alone won't get you back together. You also need to prove that you are serious. Having a plan for how things will be better in the future will go much farther than weeping about the past.

Live in the here and now. Nobody is saying you should forget about the past. In fact, it would be smart to learn from it. But, you don't want to go so far as to live in the past; that's a fantasy world. Instead, focus on current realities and work on rebuilding your relationship from there.

If you are serious and ready to get back together with your ex, then give them some room, don't plead or make unfilled promises, and stay entrenched in the present. These things will surely advance your reputation as far as your ex is concerned, and you will keep your self-respect as you move on the way to a more contented life together.

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