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Monday 6 December 2010

Marriage Guidance – True Love Is Always Worth Fighting For!

Author: Dave Islington

If your relationship is worth saving you need to act fast. A happy and long lasting relationship is the best we can achieve in this life emotionally. Every effort we make to do this is never a waste of time if we find true love in the end.

The circumstances of your marriage breakdown will dictate how hard this process is going to be. However, no matter what the circumstances are all relationships can be saved with respect, love, a great strategy and positive action! You may have to swallow your pride and seek marriage guidance from a professional counsellor. If you find this difficult there are online relationship therapists that are more discrete and many people find them easier to deal with. But, don't use those dating websites for reconciliation advice. Don't forget they benefit from people splitting up not getting back together.

The first thing you need to work out is how much you want your ex back. If you are not sure you will not be successful. As we know in life a half hearted attempt is no attempt at all. To put in the effort needed to get your lover back and rekindle that glorious flame of passion that we all crave in life, you will have to be sure this is the person for you. Apart from the fact that you will be wasting a whole load of your life, it's cruel to your lover to win their heart and realise you don't really love them but just didn't like being dumped.

You marriage is never going to work if you don't both really love each other. There has to have been love their in the first place for you to rekindle it. So ask yourself before embarking on this love quest, did your partner truly love you before your relationship deteriorated? You know the old cliché about burning embers, well… it's very true and there has to be an ember for rekindling to be successful. If you can get over your issues and the embers are there then the flames of passion will rise once you remove whatever is dampening them down.

True love takes time and you need to become friends again first before you can move on to full on love and passion. Sometimes what happens in relationships is that a couple still love each other deep down but like all friendships, there are deep issues and rifts that they need to thrash out intellectually. No bickering, no shouting and no aggression will solve this only adult and intellectual debate. The deep love you have for each other will resurface once you repair your friendship for each other. Your lover has to be your best friend as well and soul mate or your relationship will not stand the test of time.

You need to do a lot of adult talking on neutral ground so arrange baby sitters if necessary and spend some time together in a calm and neutral environment. Find out what you both want from the relationship and most important what you don't want. There are solutions and compromises all through our life and we need to get skilled at managing ourselves in this way. If you truly love each other you will aim to please and make one another happy without any obvious reward. But when you get it right the rewards are huge and you can face anything life throws at you if you have a strong and loving relationship.
Don't be afraid to seek relationship or marriage guidance, true love is always worth fighting for!

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