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Sunday 12 May 2013

How to Rekindle a Marriage

Is it possible to rekindle a marriage? That of course depends on what issues or problems are or has caused the marriage to collapse. Almost all relationships can be saved with the right approach and strategy as long as the reasons for its deterioration is not violent or abusive behaviour.

Life, career and children sometimes cause us to lose perspective and direction. Think about when your marriage was at its best, what was going on in your life and why was it good? We sometimes lose the camaraderie that pulled us together in the first place and consequently feel alone. You know the expression ‘can’t see the wood for trees’ well sometimes those who are most important to us get lost in the trees and we forget they are there and that they need our love and support.

If you are asking how to rekindle a marriage I guess you have lost your way and at the very least are questioning the validity of your marriage going forward. Our relationships are at their best when we are looking forward, before your first house together, first child, beginning a new job in a new area. These things are all exciting and it’s easy to feel very much in love when exiting things are on the horizon and that’s why you must have goals together with or without children.

Looking forward to every day together and taking on challenges together is all part of being a couple and consequently marriage, so when you no longer do that your relationship changes. For some people the change is fine and they go on together still very much in love but with a different and deeper loving relationship involving kids where the couple’s future goals now hinge on the children.

In gay relationships for instance there are in most cases no children so the couple have to have goals together that involve just themselves. Similarly when any couples children grow up and leave them they find themselves alone together as they were in the beginning but now very different people, older, wiser, more financially secure where most personal goals have been achieved although with some war wounds. So what do you look forward to? And ‘cake’ although always good in its own right is not a valid answer.

My point is that sometimes it’s not the marriage that needs rekindling but our lives, it’s hard to be enthusiastic about anything when you envisage a dull future. It is human nature to look forward and to want more or we wouldn’t have come this far and this is in all of us in different degrees. Whether it is the house you always wanted by the sea or the dream kitchen you never got the chance to do… you must have something to work towards and achieve together to get that excitement and enthusiasm for life back in your marriage. 

Any couple you meet whether they are middle aged, young or old are happy together when planning something new in the future. As many years as a kitchen designer I met thousands of couples that were on top of the world because they had projects on the go and exciting things happening in their lives. You need to spice up your life and work towards some meaningful goals together to rekindle your marriage. Exciting people lead exciting lives, rekindle your life and you will rekindle your marriage!

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