Coping with a relationship break up is one of the hardest things that most people find themselves forced to do but it is also a very common experience so luckily you can find a lot of good advice out there. What works for someone else may not work for you but just seeing other people that have gone through the same pain and survived can be reassuring.
The first thing that you need to do is accept that the relationship has indeed failed . . . at least for now. While there is a possibility of picking up the pieces again later on, for now, you shouldn't be thinking about that. Instead, do not try to contact your ex if at all possible. Many split couples have kids involved so you will have to have some contact for their sake. But keep it to a minimum.
Once you've accepted the fact that you are really on your own now, you need to make sure that you are focusing on yourself. Take time to do those things that you never had time for while you were together. While it's important to go out with friends or family, you also want to spend some time alone. Reflect on your past relationship and how the break-up evolved. It is really never just the fault of one person in the partnership. Both parties contribute to a split.
Making sure that you take care of yourself is a huge part of coping with a relationship break up. You definitely should be eating the right foods, exercising and getting enough sleep. Try to stick to a balanced diet with lots of fruit, vegetables and fibre. Exercising does not have to be extremely rigorous but many people find that a good workout really helps them get all their stress and anger out. It also increases endorphins in your body which make you feel better. If you dread exercising, just go for a walk every day. Pick some form of activity that you can do consistently. Finally, getting the right amount of sleep is crucial. Well-rested people look better and feel better. Those who lack in sleep look worn out, and feel edgy, hungrier and depressed.
When you are taking care of yourself, your self-esteem increases and you are more attractive to others. Once you are feeling more confident, you can reassess your situation and ask yourself if you think it's worth it to try to mend your relationship. Some people decide that it's not. Others will give it a try and with their new and improved self-esteem, your odds are good although of course, a lot depends on the other person.
Coping with a relationship break up has a lot to do with mending your soul and spirit. If you can stick to a plan and rely on friends and family to help you out, you will find yourself at the end of the tunnel.
