Saving A Marriage - One Step Beyond!

The first step in saving a marriage is to decide if it is worth saving. Do you still love each other? If the answer is yes then, by any means achievable, try to save it.

There is no doubt; barriers have built up between you. Whatever the reason is for those barriers to have been built, get rid of them. If this is going to work you must both agree to start with a clean slate and just forget about what brought you here to begin with? Everything will be resolved in time.

Your marriage did not get this bad overnight and saving a marriage will not happen overnight either. So, understand that if it is to be fixed it will take some time. The sooner you start, the sooner your marriage will be back to normal.

Try to look at the situation from your spouse's point of view. This will give you a new perspective on the problem or problems affecting things so negatively. Too often when things start to go wrong, one or both people in the marriage go into what they think is survival mode and figure it is every man or woman for themselves. You stop working and thinking as a team. No marriage can survive without solidarity.

The best way to get your spouse's perspective on the marriage is to sit down with them and ask them what they think. Never be so arrogant as to insist you know what your spouse is thinking. You could be very wrong and that would only make things worse.

So, when first inviting your spouse to sit and talk about saving a marriage, make sure that any ego or pride is left at the door. Remember the saying, "Pride goeth before the fall." Make up your mind, do you want your pride or do you want your spouse? You most likely cannot have both. If you choose your pride then your marriage will fall.

Set the ground rules for your talk. First, let your spouse have the floor and let them get everything out on the table. Show your spouse some respect and do not comment or interrupt them when they are speaking. Wait tolerantly for your turn and then focus only on the issues at hand. Take notes if you need to so you can respond to whatever it is they want to say.

Stay cool, calm, and collected, do not get angry at them for voicing their opinions and make sure when it is your turn they know that they should do the same. The only way this will be effective is if the hurt and anger stays at the door with the pride.

When saving a marriage whatever the issues... talk each one through to a solution. Do not leave anything unanswered. This may mean you have to have more than one session with each other. Do not get too busy for these sessions, make appointments if you need to and stick to them. Anything that gets left behind will just fester and become a huge problem later on.

Saving a marriage takes time and effort on both parts. Taking the time and making the effort shows each other you are committed to doing what needs to be done to keep your marriage strong.

All you need is a successful relationship strategy so Click Here... and watch this FREE video from an ordinary guy that has helped 50000+ couples find happiness and lasting love!