If your ex wants to get back together with you and you agree, there are certain things that you should do to make sure you will have a successful relationship the next time around.
Take your time when you are learning how to get back together; do not rush right back into the same old routine. It did not work the first time around and it surely will not work the second time around. The idea here is to make things better not repeat the same old mistakes.
Your best bet is to talk about everything that happened and led to the break up in the first place. Until you understand each other and how each one thinks, there will be no point in trying to get back together because your relationship will only end in disaster again. Do not play games or try to trick your ex into coming back to you. Doing this will only deepen the hurt and distrust.
Even though your ex wants to get back together it’s best to be friends before you two jump right back into being in a relationship. Date, hang out, have some fun, just learn to be together before things get serious again. Keeping things casual for the first few weeks will give you both time to re-adjust to the other person and let you ease back into a relationship.
Talking is not the only thing to be done in this type of situation, though. If your ex wants to get back together and they are serious about it, they should be willing to put their money where their mouth is and show you how serious they are about getting back together.
Ask them if they would be willing to go see a counsellor with you to try to work things out. If they say no then you know you have your answer and the relationship should be over at this point. There really is nothing more to talk about. If your ex wants to get back together but is not willing to work on the problems in your relationship... cut them loose.
If they say yes to the counsellor then go ahead and make an appointment with someone you both trust. Agree that you both will be as open and honest about everything as you can. Seeing a counsellor should be a healing thing for the two of you and not another source of stress and worry.
The counsellor may want to see the two of you together or they may start out seeing each one separately and then bring you both together. Depends on the depth of the problems you have. A good counsellor can help you work through everything and give you tools and homework to apply to your lives outside of the counsellor's office to continue to become the couple you wanted to be in the first place.
The sooner you can get to the bottom of the problems you had in your first relationship, the better the second relationship will be. Having someone to love you is the most wonderful thing in the world and you will be thankful that your ex wants to get back together.
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