Will she love me again? This is a question that pops up over and over again in the minds of men who are in a loveless relationship or who have just lost the woman they love. Whatever the circumstances, this can leave you feeling lost, depressed or desperate. But it doesn't have to be that way. There are many who've been able to answer "yes" the question of "will she love me again?" and you may be able to do it as well.
Your first step involves systematically accessing your state of affairs. Understand the point you are at in the relationship or the end of the relationship. Has your wife told you that she doesn't love you any longer, or do you just feel that way? Has your wife even gone so far as to say that she never wants to see you again? There is a big disparity between her not loving you and her hating you (if that is the case). You need to understand the actual situation before you can proceed in remedying it.
But, in most cases, before you can go on, you'll need to allow her the space she desires. Even if she hasn't told you that she doesn't love you anymore, her behaviour has lead you to question her love. Rather than pestering her or continually bringing it up let her have the time to work it out.
Obviously, if she has told you to leave her alone, then you know you should be giving her space anyway. At the moment, you should clear her from your mind. Stop putting all the focus on how to get her back. Dwelling or obsessing on it is not going to do anything.
Now you need to keep yourself busy with other things, mainly yourself. In this extra time that you now have, start doing some things that you enjoy but never had time to do before (or maybe she didn't like or agree with these things). Also, make sure that you are taking good care of yourself. This will serve when your "distance time" is up and you are ready to approach her once more.
You want to transform yourself into a smart, self-assured, devoted, strong person. This means eating the right kinds of foods (and shedding those extra pounds), not drinking too much or giving into some kind of behaviour that shows her you've fallen apart without her, getting enough sleep and having some fun. This time off serves both you and her.
It gives her the time she needs to think and to really see if she misses you when you aren't there and it gives you the chance to demonstrate to yourself that you can do just fine without her. It might feel like the world is about to end in the beginning, but you'll soon find that you no longer feel that way. This will put you in a good position when and if you decide to go back and try once again with her. And then you too can answer "yes" to the question of "Will she love me again?"
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