The Smart Way to Ending a Relationship 800 AM - Go To Work!

9:15 AM - Office meeting

1:30 PM - Sales presentation

6:00 PM - Break up with my significant other

Let's face it, for most of us, that kind of schedule looks pretty hilarious. While we may not plan a break up that way, there are times when something needs to be done, and somebody needs to make the first move. A lot of relationships last much longer than they almost certainly should for no other reason than breaking up isn't an easy thing to do.

Relationships characteristically end in a few basic ways. There is the dramatic break up. This type can be very sudden and usually involves strong words or actions. There is the mutual break up where both parties come to the understanding that it's over, and do so at the same time. It's almost as if it happens by magic. It's also the rarest. Finally, there is the slow break up. This is characterized by things degrading over time. The sad thing is that neither party may even know they are headed for a break up until it's far too late.

So, how can you end a bad relationship without either party getting hurt?

 

 

The first step is to know why you want to break up. But don't assume that the first reason you come up with is the real cause. You need to find the underlying cause of wanting to break up. Having a clear and precise idea of why you're breaking up will make the process go smoother for both parties. That's because you will be functioning from a position of honesty, and that's key.

Set a time to discuss things that is suitable for both of you. If at all possible do this in person. It's really not the kind of thing that should be handled via e-mail or over the phone. The only exceptions are long-distance relationships where you won't be able to get together for a while. It's better to end things quickly, than it is to delay the inevitable.

Keeping things positive when ending a relationship is a smart move. Just because you are ending a romance doesn't mean you have to make an enemy. Be nice to each other and treat each other with respect. Don't get self-protective, and don't make the other person distrustful, either. If they start crying, be empathetic. At the same time, be aware that it may be an attempt to control you. You can still be nice, but don't let them make you do something you don't really want to do.

Finally, at this stage, getting back together in the future is probably the last thing on your mind. However, it is always an option. By ending a relationship the right way, you will have a better chance of being together at a later time, should that be something you would like to do. Either way, breaking up doesn't have to be hard to do. Follow the tips above and you can both move on and be glad that you did.

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