As difficult as it is to comprehend, couples still play mind games with each other after they're married. To be direct, these marriage games are dangerous to the health of the relationship and should be avoided at all costs. There basically is no place for it in a happy marriage.
Aha! Maybe that's the point. If you or your spouse is forever playing games, then it could be taken as a sign that your marriage isn't as happy as it could be. Or... perhaps the circumstances are worse and your marriage is in real trouble. Even if it is purring along nicely, the very fact that mind games are being played means there is room for progress.
Of course we are talking about mind games up to this point. This may be referred to as manipulation, dishonesty, laying guilt trips or otherwise being deceitful about what's really going on. However, there are other types of marriage games that you can play. What we are talking about here are more focused games that both of you play together. There isn't anything underhand about them and they are designed to help reinforce your relationship.
"Why I love you." These marriage games are just as it sounds. You gaze each other in the eye, and then each spouse takes turns mentioning one explanation why they love the other one. The first few times you play this it may be tricky to name more than a few things that are okay. You both have to concur to not take the game personally f the other one is having a hard time. The more you play the more fun you will have.
"What you mean to me." These marriage games are played the same as the "Why I love you" games, but you each take turns saying what you mean to the other. Just imagine how much better you will make each other feel as you get better at rattling off your lists of why you love and value each other.
"Silence is golden." They say the vast bulk of our communication is non-verbal. You can put this to the test and work on having a healthier relationship at the same time. Go for a preset amount of time where you will agree to talk to each other without using any words. If possible, try doing it for an entire day. Also, choose a block of time where you will be together for the majority of it, or else it won't have the same effect. You may be astounded at just how much you can say without using any words at all.
While there are some marriage games you shouldn't play when you are married (like mind games), there are marriage games that will help you grow closer as a couple. The three games above are a good start, but there is no reason you can't make up games of your own or find other games that people have created for the purpose of a happier loving marriage.
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